Books like Set Boundaries, Find Peace

01

The Body Keeps the Score

Bessel van der Kolk · Psychology

The Body Keeps the Score is Bessel van der Kolk's account of four decades spent studying and treating trauma, from Vietnam veterans at the VA in the 1970s to survivors of childhood abuse, accidents, and domestic violence.

A kindred self-help read.

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Never Split the Difference

Chris Voss · Business

Never Split the Difference is Chris Voss's argument that the rational, compromise-based negotiation frameworks taught in business schools miss something fundamental about how people actually make decisions.

Both dig into communication.

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Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

Susan Cain · Psychology

Quiet is Susan Cain's argument that Western culture — and American culture in particular — has built itself around an "Extrovert Ideal" that systematically undervalues roughly a third to a half of the population.

A kindred self-help read.

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Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High

Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler · Self-help

Crucial Conversations is a book about what to do when the stakes are high, emotions run strong, and opinions diverge.

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Nonviolent Communication

Marshall B. Rosenberg · Self-help

Nonviolent Communication is Marshall Rosenberg's framework for communicating in ways that preserve connection and address needs rather than triggering defensiveness.

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The Four Agreements

Don Miguel Ruiz · Self-help

The Four Agreements is Don Miguel Ruiz's distillation of what he describes as ancient Toltec wisdom, repackaged as a practical guide to personal freedom.

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Difficult Conversations

Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen · Business

Difficult Conversations is the product of the Harvard Negotiation Project, the same research group that produced Getting to Yes.

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Fierce Conversations

Susan Scott · Business

Fierce Conversations is Susan Scott's argument that the quality of your relationships is determined by the quality of your conversations — and that the conversations most people avoid are precisely the ones that would most improve their relationships and results.

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Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Sue Johnson · Psychology

Hold Me Tight is Sue Johnson's accessible introduction to Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a model of couples therapy she developed over decades of clinical practice and research.

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Humble Inquiry

Edgar H. Schein · Business

Humble Inquiry is Edgar Schein's argument that the most important communication skill in leadership is the ability to ask questions in a genuinely curious, non-manipulative way — and that most organizational cultures systematically undervalue this skill in favor of telling, which creates problems both for individual relationships and for organizational safety and learning.

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Thanks for the Feedback

Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen · Business

Thanks for the Feedback is Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen's follow-up to Difficult Conversations, this time focused on the receiving end of feedback rather than the giving end.

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The Dance of Anger

Harriet Lerner · Psychology

Harriet Lerner's central argument is that anger is a signal, not a problem.

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